I think I’m in love!
Do you listen to your heart or your head?
Are you in love? Have you ever felt excited, scared, and overwhelmed at the same time? Keeping your feet on the ground is important so you can be your best self and handle new experiences and challenges in your relationship with calm, honesty and maturity. Couples Therapy can help balance your head and your heart to achieve this, especially if there are arguments that go around and around.
These considerations will also apply if you are considering breaking up. It can be confusing when you ‘feel love’ for someone but are not ‘in love’ with them. Relationship Counselling with New View Counselling can help you clarify when to hang on and when to let go.
When you listen to your heart...
It's not your actual heart that is speaking but rather your emotional and intuitive responses.
Your heart, as a metaphorical representation of your emotions and feelings, can guide you in matters of love.
It can give you insights and signals about what feels right or wrong, what brings you joy or discomfort, and what resonates with your deepest desires. I would encourage you to trust your instincts, your heart (or your belly) is trying to tell you something.
It can be a valuable source of information to consider alongside rational thinking and logical analysis (your head).
If your heart is beating rapidly, we often like to attach this to ‘what being in love should feel like’ – the next blog article will encourage you to consider is this healthy or unhealthy excitement (it could be fear based and anxiety)?
When you listen to your head...
Rational thinking helps you evaluate the compatibility, shared values, and long-term feasibility of a relationship.
It helps you consider the practical aspects alongside your emotional connection.
Making decisions in matters of love requires a blend of emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and logical reasoning. This is what we call a ‘wise mind’ – a blend of both emotional and intellectual.
It's about integrating your heart and mind to make choices that align with your authentic self and bring you fulfillment in your relationships. I would encourage you to be curious, what does your mind want you to consider, and how does this feel in your body and is this healthy?
If you are struggling to balance your heart and your head, I wonder if your partner is too? Couples Counselling can be a supported way to express and learn, then bond and thrive. Book now or send a message below to chat.
