FIFO - DIDO Relationship Counselling
FIFO or DIDO life is not all about amazing money and time and space to have your own independence.
As a FIFO wife myself, I know there are positive opportunities but there are also tough, often lonely times.
While my story is not yours and may even be different, no matter how long you have been doing it or how old your kids are, I get you!
Communication is important but not going to be the only thing to fix our struggles. Connection with others (other mums and women), personal hobbies and interests, management of anxiety, budgeting and trust are also important.
Let’s not forget about how to be supportive. We allow space and time for recovery but how do you receive support? You have been working more than 12 hours shifts and it is unlikely you will get days off for R&R.
If you are walking on egg shells or are not feeling connected to your work away partner (while they are home or away), I wonder if they are too? Couples Counselling can be a supported way to negotiate through the biggest challenges. Book now or call to chat.
0456 162 969
FAQs
My partner works away, is it hard to find a time?
We can book ahead to plan your progress. I do recommend avoiding as soon as the work away partner arrives home to allow for adjustment time and avoiding right before they leave so you have opportunity to debrief and process together.
Can my partner do zoom?
Of course they can do zoom but we need to consider what kind of work and what kind of role they are doing. A supervisor or someone doing labour intensive work may be exhausted after their 12 hour day. It is best to look for a swing day between day and night shift or before shift starts or before they start their travel home.
Is it possible to make this work?
Absolutely but it depends on the dynamics and needs of your family. The “I work 12 hours” will not wash with a stay at home mum managing kids who have needs 24/7. Finding a balance in expectation and clear boundaries and goals, especially with the purpose of this work life is essential. Consider ‘How will you know when to stop?’ and ‘How much money is enough’?